Is it possible to go against the current of dizzying demands laid on mothers today? Maybe the greatest threat to our homes is not worldliness outside, but busyness within.
In our schedules.
In our hearts.
Restlessly eager to show up everywhere on time, prepared, and ready to go to the next thing.
I had a conversation with a friend the other night about feeling behind in life, and how if we had a reset button we could get things in order and then let our marriages, kids, and ministries proceed as usual. Of course, we would be living in a fantasy! Because life has no reset button, and nothing will wait for the laundry to be done or every call, email, text to be made. Some things, many things, are left undone.
Truth is, none of us have it all together. If we were honest we would say we feel out of sorts on many days. Bad attitudes, anxieties, dirty dishes, hormones, fatigue, clutter, sickness, unmet goals, and marriage and parenting challenges can contribute to discouragement and feeling off balanced. We wish we could call a “timeout” to get our act together.
But then I was reminded this week of how God calls us to remain steadfast, and that the Christian mother’s life is an extended season of testing. The only timeouts we get are when we get before the feet of Jesus. Only He can offer what our hearts are yearning for. I love how James says that the testing of our faith “produces steadfastness” (James 1:3). We don’t muster it up, it comes to us as we joyfully endure the trials and testing of life.
So I say, yes, it is possible to go against the frantic current of busy motherhood. Not that it is wrong to be busy, because “I have seen the business that God has given [mothers] to be busy with,” and “He has made everything beautiful in its time” (Ecclesiastes 3:10-11). It is not in being busy, but how we are busy that matters. It is in being busy and at rest at the same time, content with incompleteness and not having it all together that we thrive as mothers. Because “when steadfastness has its full effect,” we will have it all together- “perfect and complete, lacking in nothing” (James 1:4). God is shaping us to look more like His Son, and it is His grace to use marriage and motherhood to sanctify us in this way.